Diane Dear Diane, First, rest assured that at the start of a relationship, many people keep their profiles open and check incoming emails. It finally bothered me so much that his profile was still active that I asked him about it. He should be loving, supportive, respectful, and kind. We spent our first Valentines together and he met my family. I asked him if he was sleeping with anyone else or anyone else from the website and he said no. Personally from what you said think he is trying to tell you indirectly what he wants.
Does he feel he might end up with the booby prize? She did her own investigation and found out that he was talking to other women from everywhere sometimes he would tell them he had a girlfriend but it was ending or he would tell them he is single. You can read a book together but if he turns around and starts putting a profile online, what good has it done? Linda August 12, 2015, 5:03 am My story is I am over 45 and back into dating I was single for 3 years. The right guy will step it up. This man is 45yrs old, please tell me what I should do? I can tell you from personal experience that this was a skill I needed to learn. You met him in a site, and on your 3rd date, you went all the way. No one else uses the laptop except us. To be honest i havent told him how strongly i feel for him as im worried ill scare him off or all of this is just a game to him and i dont want to give him the satisfaction of him knowing how much i care for him.
Be true to yourself, and be honest with yourself. Finding out the basement roommate and he actually did have an intimate relationship after swearing up and down since July that he never touched her was the final straw of many in the red flags and numerous chances to be honest. Happened to one of my best friends. I said I had made an account and saw him on there. No wonder so many lose faith in the online dating venue.
He has no clue what he is doing and I told him just get lost he isnt worth even talking to Jerk! They like having women contacting them…even if they are rejecting all of them as it makes them feel desirable. Although we are ok now but I just feel so helpless. Alisa February 6, 2012 I, like most people here, have a very similar situation. I have met an army man on an online dating site about 6 weeks ago, and we pretty much hit it off right from the beginning. A week ago, I brought it up again. I have even offered to show him how to delete it but that conversation always ends quickly.
I just finished it on the assumption that he had had plenty long enough to decide if he liked me a little bit or not. Wasted an entire year on this man. My boyfriend for me you were the online dating sites. No shame in protecting your biggest investment: your self esteem and right to know who you are in bed with…. We dated for two months before we became intimate and I just assumed that we were exclusive.
We have now been on 9 dates, and whenever we are together we have a good time, laughing and talking and really get along well together. He said that I was making a big deal out of nothing. November 12, 2011 Christine — I do like your friends advice to continue dating others. As they are going that slow, the speed of which you stop checking online also slows. However there are in the back of people and he is still important. I am just going to start dating other people and not even worry about it.
Im sooo scared to lose this guy and dont know what to think right now. I hope he comes around to appreciate what he has instead of worrying about what he might be missing out on! If you talk about monogamy and he continues to look online, be honest with yourself. I would just be concerned that this type of game could continue for years. If you use that approach with him, I would hope it would go pretty well. I called match to make sure I did not falsely accuse him of being online if he was not. Oh my goodness, and I thought we were going really really slow.
I know your feelings are involved but open your eyes and move on and dont let it happen again. Then instead of apologizing he yelled at me for knowing. I was very worried because I knew that as an army soldier, deployment is always imminent. So observe, observe and adjust your investment to his. I thought wow he really is an honest guy, what a catch! I thought everything went well but he never texted again after I stopped going to hospital from Monday. We became close friends and then fwb which suited us both at the time.
We had an amazing connection and he made me his girlfriend about the second. He did it on his own and problem was resolved with no drama. I am going to do what I want because he is surely doing what he wants. His convo with me, pretending to be another woman was not flirty, it was more obscenely friendly tbh and he was keen to open a convo, be friendly, overly maybe ask for msn or skype…. The reader above waited six weeks and I think that is very patient. His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile. These actions tel me that he likes me and is trying to have a serious relationship with me.
What if that happens a year from now? Unfortunately for him, I can see all those little tricks, and I can tell you 100% that he is after sex, and a good time. Smonty1227 October 20, 2011 Hi. If you two have ongoing sex in any form , have respect for yourself as well as her and anyone else you are whispering to in bed — and either become exclusive if its going well or let her find a man who knows her worth and would like to share life with her. I realised it was early days and though it hurt I let it go. I went back to hospital a week later to officially end my attachment n I said goodbye. He has continually helped me out, he surprises me with gifts along the way.