I think he was in his early 40s? We are just meant to be close friends. Don't be an asshole when making your judgments. Guys gravitate towards the familiar, and they sure appreciate the comfort-ability that goes along with having a girl as a best friend who just might be down with a friendly hookup. She's a self-proclaimed Pinterest enthusiast, aspiring writer, avid reader, and constant smiler. Just like everything else in life, there are high risks involved when you choose to sleep with your best friend. This rule applies to everyone mentioned in a post and to other users. Don't submit humblebrag stories where there is no chance that you are the asshole, or awfulbrag stories where you are obviously being evil.
Be Civil The title of this sub is not an invitation for you to be cruel. It almost always ends in some kind of complication, ranging from heartbreak to total breakdown. It could completely ruin your friendship and you may never talk to that person again. Test the waters the next couple of days, if you can hang out like nothing has happened and continue on with your regular day to day activities, then chances are this scenario can happen a couple more times. If people start saying you were the asshole, do not take that as an invitation to debate them on the subject. Or, do you ride off into the sunset in a horse and carriage? However, there is not only a negative side to hooking up; there is a way to make hooking up with your friend a lasting, loving, exciting endeavor.
You have standards to uphold and you're very selective. Can you hear those wedding bells? I disagree with some of the comments. He was funny, cute, smart, and a total gentleman, which pretty much sums up my qualifications. If they check with me, then I probably wouldn't care. Even in casual talk, ask her for her opinion on certain issues, views and such, and tease her about it.
I'd also have a right to be mad if my friend knew I wasn't still over that guy. You rip back shots, nights get blurry and accidents happen. If you are lucky to keep that best friend for years to come, you will always be able to look back and laugh at the idea that you two could have been something more than what you are now. Later she revealed that she had a huge crush on him before setting them up. This is the sub to lay out your actions and conflicts and get impartial judgment rendered against you. But hey, life is too short to hold grudges ;D what gives you the right to say what your ex does or date.
One drunk night one of my best friends hooked up with him while she had a boyfriend of 2 to 3 years! You know that this disastrous event could potentially completely ruin your friendship with him forever, unless it is handled properly. We slept together and I have no words. Years of friendship have built you guys up to this point and it will defiantly be a hard bond to break if something does not go as planned. Just as long as you do not allow the awkwardness to get too awkward. Hi Anna, I have been going through your old articles hoping to find the answer, but surprisingly no one has asked you yet! The flair will be decided by the top comment of the post. Take time to format and punctuate your post reasonably so our subscribers will actually want to read it.
Also I would consider any less than a couple of months too quick to hook up, at least so I can move on first and have some closure on the relationship, and I would consider it just a dog act if they knew I still liked them, even if we werent together. Oh, you mean the emotional ramifications of boning your best straight friend? We even hooked up a couple more times. It lasted maybe like 5 minutes, and after that I was extremely weirded out. While on the way everything seemed normal until she put her hand on my leg. But whatever the reason, it happened. So even if that love is not a romantic love, it is a love nonetheless, and it is unconditional.
I cheat on my gf one time and we are in a long-distance relationship. And if she wants a relationship with you, she's gotta prove to be a girlfriend catch. A few hangouts later, she used me like her boy-toy for a few months and her husband never found out. We had good fun, so I came back over again soon for more of it. I would travel with her, and stay in hotels with her, so it was the perfect cover. I have to live with the constant fear that her sons, all of whom I am friends with, will find out.
Ive also heard people allow it if your friend and your ex really like each other and ask permission I guess So, when in your opinion does your friend hooking up with your ex cross the line? It tells me that she thinks you are someone who might be a hit with her best friend, but she does not want to date you herself. One night we were watching a movie at my place with Chinese takeout, extremely casual, and for some reason I just wanted to see what it was like to kiss him, maybe to assure myself that I had no feelings for him and just thought he was hot. Like, if people are drunk or whatever and just getting with each other for the hell of it then it's fair enough and no one should be too mad because it's all a bit of fun but if it's sober and meaningful then feelings of others should be considered. Ultimately, you do have some control of the outcome and how you handle it. I think it's okay if you hook up a couple years later. You can blame it on the a-a-a-alcohol all you want, but now, it's up to your sober self to clean up the mess. He was sending out the vibes that he was interested and I was flattered.