Understand your friend is probably going to be upset and it might take its toll on your friendship for a while, but if you two are really good friends, they will look beyond the fact that the woman you care about is their ex, see her as the person who makes you happiest, and be happy for you. Don't hook up with stupid people. We did not have sex, but he was pushing for it. Never hook up with guys with race-related hangups. She didn't take anything from you. That's totally fine; there are other guys out there who will make the first move. What screws people up is thinking they should just use a friend for multiple purposes like fucking too, instead of respecting the friendship and maintaining the friendship, and having intimate relationships with other people outside your friendship group.
Oh lord, I'm gonna answer this anonymously. Treating you differently than the rest is a sure sign of interest. Obviously, it won't always be as simple as not doing it, but definitely try your best to refrain. Now we only argue when we talk. If you can see him being your boyfriend, only hook up with him after you're in the relationship. Never hook up with the neighborhood gossip queen or people who are active in the social scene. Over time, it's normal to develop a platonic friendship with them as long as they continue to be a good partner to your friend.
Hooking up gets more complicated when you involve two people who have a pretty top notch pre-existing relationship; like say, a set of friends who have known one other for a while. Of course, they are usually ridiculously off base for actually landing that hookup but that's beside the point. Hooking up with a best friend is one of the ultimate tests when it comes to your friendship and while it may not be the best idea, there are a few ways to safely passage a way through the ultimate crap show that it could turn into. Before you know it, your second best friend will know about it. Gay, Bi, Transgendered and anyone else is more than welcome here.
It happens more often than not. And you obviously like the attention. If you ask her to hang and she can't but follows up with a different idea or opportunity, then it shows she still wants to see you despite being unavailable on your terms classic hard-to-get move. Do you want the lie or the truth? They're sweet, funny, attractive, and they make your friend happy. If you truly like him, then wait until you're in a committed relationship, and the sex will be that much more special. On this one, the experts are split.
Here are a few great ways to hook up with a girl given the circumstances. Are you confused over your feelings towards a friend? This rule is for all my fellow black gay men and other gay men of color. I hooked up with a friend's sister, I really liked her, but god damn the akwardness between my friend and I. As soon as you realize that this scenario is not for you, it is better to bail and keep the tight bond of friendship that was there before. Unfortunately, it's not an easy one.
Moreover, if you're mean to him, he might go around town telling everyone that he had sex with you and that you were bad in bed. Obviously the latter is what most people hope for and if you work at it, it can be your outcome. You could get sexually attracted to a friend or even a hot minx sashaying on the dance floor. There is a good chance that both of you will see the situation differently and laugh about how different you both interpreted the memorable night. If she doesn't sit near you, or if she avoids eye contact and physical contact, it's likely her feelings are platonic only.
After all, it is just sex, right? And say it was an accident and was meant for some other girl. Or at least not an easy thing. You may miss each other, but sometimes there is just no going back. There must be some kind of science behind mastering the craft of hooking up with your best friend because not a lot of people have been able to crack it, let alone survive it. Ever since we did it though something has been different between us. Call an interested friend often, preferably late at night.
You can see why she's a former friend and not a current one. There is a deep bond between best friends, and that deep bond is not lost when you call someone of the opposite sex your best friend. Did you tell her about the crush, and then after encouraging you to pursue it she went straight over to his place and banged him when she had never shown any interest in him before? We both blamed it on being drunk, so it was sort of overlooked and forgotten. Gay bathhouses are just trashy, and you might run into a gossip queen or a popular scenester if you go, which would be breaking two hookup rules. But even if you have to blurt it out, how are you supposed to know if the feeling will be mutual? The lie is that you are a free agent when single and whomever you choose to lay your eyes on can be yours. By long period, I mean six months or more.
If she does these things, ask her out already! But how do you have that awkward conversation? I will always wait for the guy to approach me at a bar. Friendship is platonic, if you hookup or date you are not longer friends because you changed the dynamics and the boundaries of the relationship. This is where that best friend bond can come in handy; so if you are going to take the leap of faith, at least use the knowledge you have of one another to make it unforgettable. I think you can rule out this kind of dark, devious motive. Just as long as you do not allow the awkwardness to get too awkward. I would not say he is my best friend, but for me he is one of the friends I have felt closest to. I thought there was underlying chemistry there, obviously because we got along so well as friends, and when we tested it out, I think I got more attached than I had planned.