I'd wait until after you dont need to see him again and then see if he wants to meet up for a drink-if he says yes then great and if he says no then u wont have to face the humiliation of seeing him again. I met a beautiful woman at a sporting event. Second, the case points us to an important question - if sex between doctor and patient is seen as wrong, what makes it wrong? I was recently involved with my surgeon. Hi Jim, I was recently involved with my surgeon for about 6 months and it really left me feeling depressed, abandoned and vulnerable. Some chiropractors prefer a more forceful manipulation which may offer immediate relief, while others prefer to use a more gentle and gradual approach. All of the intention has been initiated by me, it is true that the manipulations have helped my general attitude and health of course simply being in her company would have effected the same response.
The physician-patient relationship is asymmetrical. As a member of the medical profession the physician professes a set of values. As he walked me out he told me that I could always call him after 5:00 at the office to speak to him directly. I regularly learn from your blog and am grateful for your thoughtful comment. First, he's not a psychiatrist! Doctors of chiropractic shall not mislead patients into false or unjustified expectations of favorable results.
If the one you are considering has been disciplined by any board, find someone else:. Dr Sabin, Thank you for your response and attention to my question. Dear anonymous - Thank you for your question and comment, and for sharing your own experience. With regard to your question about talking with others, you should be free to process this experience in whatever ways serve you best. It may be allowed, but on a professional basis, if He or She wants to keep good standing in the community, they should remember Rule 1 - People Will Talk. I think you're right to focus on the harm to the profession. Thank you for opening this blog as it helps with the recovery.
I would encourage you to consider counselling to deal with the marital unhappiness you've experienced and the relationship that has emerged with your obgyn. I love to send her flowers, love poems, messages of endearment. It's part of the responsibility in being a member of the profession to respect and follow its ethical guidance. Hippocrates based his prohibition of doctor-patient sex on the intrinsic responsibilities of the medical profession, not on the consequences of seducing male or female members of the house the physician entered. Chiropractors know the importance of balance and alignment in life. None of this conversation happpened with me undressed, but rather after the physical exam.
We decided to meet on Wednesday at his office and had incredible sex on his office sofa. The Texas Medical Association would have done better if they had gone back to Hippocrates: With purity and with holiness I will pass my life and practice my Art. There are enough chiropractors to choose from. Sexual misconduct exploits the doctor-patient relationship and is a violation of the public trust. Harm to the patient is a probable outcome of doctor-patient sex.
Financially Stable Chiropractors make money. Developing a sexual relationship with a present or former patient tarnishes the profession itself, whatever its effect on the individual patient. In addition to the excellent line of reasoning you propose, I see a rationale in the motivation we want the medical profession to evince. Wonderful, perhaps its time to step away from eHarmony and start looking into the medical field. Your obgyn's capacity to make each of his patients feel special and important is something every physician should strive for. I appreciate your willingness to discuss this problem. Sexual or romantic relationships with current or former patients or key third parties are unethical if the physician uses or exploits trust, knowledge, emotions, or influence derived from the professional relationship.
Any actions that may benefit the practitioner to the detriment of the dating must be avoided so as to not erode the public trust. I'm concerned that you appear to be experiencing a sense of conflict and perhaps emerging hurt. For specifics in any given state refer to the state licensing laws. It also leaves me very uncomftorable to ever visit his clinic or seek any type of counseling through his office. Good luck in your further recovery from your experience! Returning to our table, I shared a story about some herbal supplements I was taking for insomnia; She told me that she was a chiropractor and had several practical thoughts about nutrition, diet supplements and structural corrections for improving ones health. Sexual contact or a romantic relationship between a physician and a current patient is always unethical. If that's correct he was in a relationship of authority in two ways - as surgeon and as employer.
To my amazement, I learned that she is trapped by her profession and may only treat me as a good friend as I have become her patient. You could even post on our to see what other community members are paying for their treatments. I ask because I want to know when I can talk to others about this problem without risking his career. How can you turn down free adjustments? But as I said in the post - I think it's a mistake to assume that every patient is harmed. It takes entrepreneurial nerve and skill to manage a successful practice. But there's still a ways to do, as your experience indicates.