In the meantime she should be busy creating the life she wants without him. Otherwise it just ain't gonna work. The woman takes much greater control of the man, telling him where he can go and when he can go there, who he can talk to, what he can wear, what he can eat, what he can say and when he can speak. It is not your job to convince anyone to see things your way. She never cuckolded or pegged me or anything else.
He won't pretend to prefer ballroom dancing to football, but if I put my foot down, he'll not only be happier watching the dancing with me, he'll ask me if he can rub my feet while we watch. I have never before felt the physical distance between us to that extent. There are many women out there who have a full-time job, take care of the kids and are also keeping the fire alive in the bedroom. Breaches of obedience should always be met with very strict discipline, either removal of rights or physical punishment such as spanking or slapping. Since when was this changed to being in a female led relationship? My error in judgement happened when I mentioned this to him. Now: Unlike before, men are starting to understand that letting a woman lead is better for the relationship. Sometimes we end up pushing to hard.
When most people think about happy, successful relationships they imagine a situation in which the partners work together as equals but for men and women who seek out female led relationships, equality is not part of the deal. I have no desire to lead a relationship, but then. The problem is, I know I am right. Kathy is much better at financial management than Gary. While having the love and support of her man. Empowering the wife or girlfriend to make all the decisions brings order, stability and predictability to a relationship. He'd be happy working as an adjunct and playing the supporting role for my career.
Another of our rules is that if Gary ever curses at Kathy, speaks disrespectfully to her, walks away in a huff, etc. There are such people in any and every group and sub-culture of humanity, I believe. She expresses loving authority, which he craves, never settling for less than she believes she deserves. We could see that other academic couples had a hard time finding jobs in the same city, unless one person, usually the woman, was less ambitious. Nothing could be further from the truth in our marriage.
We did, however, add the links where appropriate. I have decided though that maybe it is time. I cant help but consider how secure and confident a man has to be in order to acquiest to his woman. Alpha is often misunderstood as meaning dominates others. However, whatever the level of female leadership in a relationship, retraining and reprogramming of your man is necessary because of the way he would have been brought up in what was a male-dominated environment. When you take the guesswork out of everyday situations, things will run smoothly and efficiently. I believed him because he loved to cook and do housework.
As for decision making, we decide all important financial and parenting matters together, but in other areas, when we disagree, I know I can have the last word if I want to. Ashamed at my own behaviour, the part of me that prevented properly creating that safe space. Should it be shopping, collecting the dry-cleaning, or making a decision as to where we are going to eat, I thrive on having control over these decisions. This is achieved in many ways, not least renaming him and insisting on him curtseying or bowing to you. Since we, personally, practice the traditional form of domestic discipline, it has been easy to cover that dynamic ourselves.
With her leading the relationship he feels safe and confident. Again proving that they may be more suited in wearing the pants in the relationship. Wearing the metaphorical pants in a female led relationship When it comes to relationships, letting the woman wear the pants is still a relatively taboo topic. I want to say that the most important factor is the woman as the leader but in my experience, the most important factor is that the man be willing to follow. The respect we have for each other and our individual needs makes this a non-issue for us. For some couples, this type of relationship is ideal, even though it goes against social norms. The man may find that he enjoys it or he may push back.
Women make great leaders — in and out of the bedroom — and smart men know it. Good ones definitely do, the dynamic is very nuanced. For some, it can be a very fulfilling thing for a man to be more focused on pleasing and pampering the woman in his life and making her happy. We appreciate the men who accept and appreciate us for who we are and support us in this process. He needed that closeness too, I could feel it. That was almost 3 years ago, and now we are both thrilled that we made the decision to bring the elements of a female led relationship into our marriage.
Level four is obviously the most intense level in the world of female led relationships. Kathy has embraced her role as the clear Dominant partner and is the ultimate authority in our home. Examples include dissatisfaction and the customary power struggle. Gary is responsible for most of the household chores, including laundry, dusting, vacuuming, washing the floors, etc. He loves it when she challenges him to be a better man. We have been told by many people that they admire how well we get along, and how respectful Gary is of Kathy and her desires.