Seems to me that you're choosing to spend time with the wrong guys. You're naturally feeling pretty excited to take things to the next level, and the two of you are talking about how it will go down. If it's no big deal for her, you'll still need to be gentle and considerate, but there may be less emotional prep work involved. If you were really sure of your life decisions, you wouldn't be worried about what the guys you date think of them. Not so fine, if I just brought her home from the bar and was gonna call her a cab in the morning. In this case, I suggest that you start to focus seriously on the things that are preventing you from finding a boyfriend. Being able to do this will come along with getting older and having more life experiences.
You are so far gone at this point even though he has rejected you. Is finding out that a girl is a virgin something that scares guys away? While the older guy , should understand what will happen, and what he needs to do, after he takes the cherry. I have some problems with the various reasons that she is a 25 year old virgin. Would this put you off someone or would you like this more Being a virgin puts me off, but I'm not 18 anymore. Whatever the reason, the whole thing ended horribly. Take your cues from your partner: slow down or stop when she tells you to, and listen to what she says to you in terms of how she's feeling.
But first, I want to take a moment to highlight what is perhaps the important thing. She is an experienced writer who loves blogging about her personal experiences as a college girl and writing how-to guides for recent grads. But the guys feel differently about when you should share this information with them. I wish I could roll back time and we could both have been virgins. Just relax and enjoy the moment when you get there! That's a crass way of putting it, but that's effectively what I'm trying to ask lol Not sure if you've come across any interesting tidbits you can share. In general most guys love knowing that they are dating a virgin cause that means that you haven't been with any other guy before! Why do men feel the way they do we really will never know you can ask the question but really will not give the answer you want to hear or read they can say I would date a virgin or some would say no they would not. So my advice is this: don't compromise your ideal; , and start working towards it.
So if you're a virgin, before you go out and have casual sex with a random man, figure out the true reasons why you're still a virgin, then decided if you still want to wait. Men like to figure things out so by you answering that way, it will most likely keep him questioning his assumption you've had sex without you actually saying it. Don't worry too much about that side of things: with practice, so for her first time, focus on making sure she's comfortable and happy. Maybe you haven't met the kind of guy you're willing to give your virginity to, or maybe you haven't gotten married yet. If someone has been holding it for this long, I would feel special for having her choose to give it up to me. Although, I have never hidden my virginity from guys who I was really interested in and tried to sleep with me, because I know why I am virgin, and I dont have any regrets.
I do want to add something to your advice about when to tell the guy you're dating you're a virgin. During a make-out session Based on our survey, this is probably not the best time to share the news with him even though about 40% of guys say they would just ignore it and continue making out with you. He told me appreciated my values and seemed happy bout it. This doesn't mean we were immature children before that. So for those who are more sincere in their beliefs, there can be a view that they are, well, fanatical. To me, it put me off unless we were dating. Tailor your approach to the attitude of your partner, but err on the side of treating it as a significant event for her.
It's scary to have financial stability as one of my reasons for not having sex, because I don't know when I will have job that helps me pays off my debt, pays the bills, and helps me buy nice date clothes; but when I do, I know I will be open to dating. There is no doubt in my mind that female virgins feel this pressure. Some boys turn all clingy, and want to hold onto the woman. In other words, how should a 2 accept they are a 2 and can never be an 8? Of course you've also got the ones who don't give a flying fig if their partner is a virgin or not. If you guys were taking it so nice and slow as you say, then why was he freaked out? My choices were to lower my standards, or remain single. As far as marriage goes, I think men still value virginity. Like you said, the reasons are everything.
You sound younger than me, I'm 23, so it makes sense I understand this a little better. Any guy that's worth your time does not feel that way. But anyway, the point is that I know how much pressure a girl or woman can feel to live up to what she sees as the socially acceptable level of sexual experience for someone her age. In my experience, the men who were already emotionally attached to me took the news much better than guys I had only started dating. Some women marry non-Christians because they want a husband and children.
I am a 31 year old female virgin. Is it even a big deal to them?. Just because you've done this before, it doesn't mean you don't need to consider your own feelings. Most normal guys are either indifferent meaning it isn't an important factor or are concerned with it being a girl's first time. One of the biggest problems virgins face is that they don't know why they want to be virgins.