After carefully introspecting the pros and cons of both courses of action, it is important that you understand the stakes and wager a suitable bet. He lives his life by the motto, 'I'm the story of my own journey. You can even disappoint yourself. We have the greatest relationship in the world and most couples really get jealous of us. Featured image source: Google, copyright-free image under Creative Commons License. You have been there through thick and thin and they were also there by your side to help you move on after facing a setback in your life without facing any collateral damage. Just imagine him as a partner, just one time, and see if your perception changes a bit.
Here are a few rules to keep in mind when trying to figure out whether it makes sense to start something up with your ex boyfriend's bro. He already knows about your past relationships Unless you just met him and bonded instantly, he's probably seen — or at least heard about — your dating disasters of the past. It means you have something to lose. Never bring up the topic of their previous relationship, unless they, themselves, want to talk of it. He already knows your favorite color, and he understands your personal views of the future. Gauge the significance of your friendship and the importance of a potential romance Image source: Google, copyright-free image under Creative Commons License After you realize that you cannot give away your chance, you need to load up your friendship and the potential relationship on a weighing scale and see where the scale tips. It's because you've already labeled him or her as something else.
The closer you are to your friend, the higher the stakes. Now, just ask her out, like you would any other woman. Especially if he's somewhat of a social media over-sharer. You would be scared and vulnerable in the process and there is nothing wrong with it. Even if you could have a fantastic relationship with this girl, it might not be worth it, considering that such a relationship would certainly alter your friendship, and might kill it off. It is only after time has had some ticks to nurse their wounds that you can charge ahead. They are the first person you want to talk to about anything, and you both insist on keeping in constant contact when you are apart.
For example, if you're both psyched about the outdoors, a hike will never be boring. It might be less terrible if you carefully read this ten-step guide. We've all heard stories where two people get together under touchy circumstances and a friend group is a little upset, or even falls apart. Ask your most honest friend who, in an ideal world, also knows your ex. I have known my best friend for 11 years. Of course, this depends on the aforementioned variables. Your best friend is also scared about this possibility, but you know what? Do not always freak out about any interaction between your friend and your partner owing to an irrational fear of them still having residual feelings of love.
She will appreciate your honesty, having waited for the perfect time and respecting her situation. Depending on the situation, it might either be a funny coincidence or something that could tear apart a friend group. We know they will always be there to catch us whenever we fall. The ideal of talking about everything all the time is an ideal promoted by idiots who have never been in a relationship. No feigned happiness or commiseration here. Which is to say, suggest alcohol at a time and place, without apology, hesitation, or further explanation. When you're dating, you're just cringing over anticipation of the moment when these habits come to light.
You can simply be yourself: no makeup, no fancy clothes, no perfectly styled hair. Setting unrealistic expectations will kill it Image source: Google, copyright-free image under Creative Commons License When you are dating your best friend, you are going to have a lot of expectations from it. By all means, engage her in discussion about it if she brings it up. Your mood is elevated during his presence, even if it's when you're doing something stupid like snarking on movie selections. Set ground rules Dating your best friend has a lot of perks. He might joke about your gross yet satisfying nail biting habit, or he's probably aware that one glass of wine too many makes you weirdly political in social settings.
And no, there are absolutely no exceptions to the rule on this one. If so, and if you still want to go ahead, then you have to take the painful next step. Share your thoughts and words of wisdom in the comments! And this is an even worse habit in this situation. Think about your past relationship as objectively as possible. Which brings me to the next rule… 4: It is your sworn duty to be there when a break-up occurs.
Of course, I understand that rationalists shall subject my justification to a demand and supply rule but the principles of economics are far too weak to mute the voice of the heart. In most cases, honesty is the way to go. Who told you that something as great as this can be attained just like that? Please refrain from passing on information that may be over — read, uncomfortable or simply offensive and hurtful. But there are some nasty possibilities here. If your fears are indeed false, your distrust of your partner may bring about ugly situations whenever your partner interacts with somebody from the opposite sex. If you both bond over something, dates won't be as hard to plan. Bhavya believes in breaking the stereotypes and trying new things because life is too short to let it stay boring.