She says those views aren't what they used to be regarding the appropriate age to begin to date. Ok, this is a dicey issue and I speak from personal experience. It might even become impossible for him to get a job or find a place to live, as he could be required to never again be within 100 yards of any person under 18. Don't confuse yourself with having a friend in opposite gender to 'dating'. Twelve years old is still a child.
There is much to understand and you need to be in a very different place in your life - among other things, independent from your parents - before you contemplate such a relationship. And so they've become really desensitized to it. It's really about relationships and caring for another person. You have to think about your own future too. Hopefully he's exceedingly immature but more than likely he is a mix of both. I was still extremely immature at that age. It was infuriating for me to have these qualities savior and for no girls to notice.
You really have to know your child. It's not bad to like him, but it is very bad to do anything about it. If you are concerned talk with her parents about it and express why you think it isn't right and perhaps they will have a talk with her and at least tell her about the possible consequences about being involved with someone at that age. Because to love means not being emotionally attached to others merely for the same of fulfilling your sexual, social, or esteem needs. Also add to the fact that she is a twelve year old girl. More importantly, though, is why on earth is a 12 year old dating.
Then again, I don't think 12 year olds should be dating. I find it horrifying that the 15 year old would even show interest in her. If he won't take no for an answer, get the authorities involved. Hell, I'm still pretty immature now, and I'm 17. . You missed mentioning who you are! Those who truly love, do not seek to change anything but themselves. Do not accept marriage as love.
The general consensus from the group was that 12 seems to be a good age to begin dating. What will that person answer when someone asks about dating a 12 y old like you? Seldom is marriage genuinely based on love - and has more to do with lust and the desire for compatible company, as well as the fear of loneliness and social ostracism. A 16 yr old highschool student dating a 13 yr old child even in today's era would be considered seedy and perverted except in Maine, Tennessee, Kentucky and most parts of West Virginia. I was enlisted and I hit it off with an officers daughter inside my own squadron. Dude go for someone of your age. Personally I think she was trying to punish him for being over protective. A good way to scare kids that age out of doing that is to tell them having a kid will ruin their lives.
I told you this story to give you a moment of pause. At that time it was 1979 and the legal age of consent in Florida was 18 to consent to sex. Now if somehow those feelings last till you turn 18. How we got caught was she got caught in my room during a room inspection. Teens are exposed to intimate relationships early on.
What will that 12y old even understand? At least when it comes to what age to marry off it's daughters. We dated and eventually, still before her 18th birthday, we did it actually in my barracks room of all places. I think at 16 you can be charged as an adult while at 13 she is still a juvenile. Yeah my creeper radar is going off the charts when I think about this kid. When I was in the Navy I entered at 19 yrs old.
She was my Dept heads youngest girl and she was 17. Those areas are morally repugnant anyway. A 15 year old is much more mature than a 12 year old. That means if the neighbors have kids. You will be a kiddo to that person! It works regardless if you are 17 or you are 170.
I urge you to find a girl closer to your age. Moreover dating is not just like going out, eating ice cream together, chatting over some shitty topic for hours or showing off before your friends that you are being with someone of opposite gender. Much to the dismay of her snotty pilot father, who wanted to hang my ass from a yardarm to use an old adage, my ass was saved and there was only 2 yrs difference in our ages. Because we get so focused on the sex part, we forget that the relationship comes in behind it, and our kids are missing some of that. And building love between two people.